Over arching question of my adult life. Why can’t I be both? It is said I am like my grandfather who would look at options on a dinner table and say, “I’ll have a little of each.” People laugh at that story but it is true. We say you can’t have it all but in my life I have always wondered why? Why do I have to choose just one? I grew up being told, you can be anything you want in life. No one said you had to be just one thing but it was the ape in the room.
I can do Both jobs
In college I graduated with a degree in Advertising. I took both creative and management classes because in advertising agencies you have people who design and others who arrange things with the clients. So, I was educated in both. However, when I was graduating from school I was told by many different professors to choose to either be a creative or management. I disagreed. Having also doubled majored so I knew the value in knowing both sides of the business. Now I have worked in many different positions in both agencies and in the private businesses with my knowledge of both creative and management serving me equally well.
This experience has allowed me to have variety of jobs. Not just doing one thing for many companies but I have worked in marketing, public relations, online media, and event planning. Employers look at my resume now and are nervous that I have done too many things. Something I never thought would happen. But doesn’t that make me well-rounded? I can do just about any communications job under the sun because of the crazy number of jobs and experiences I have had. I truly have been lucky enough to do a little bit of each. I have created forms so that a creative process is easier to track and I have written all the wording for entire websites.
Smart and Fat
When I was growing up in a small town I was the fat kid in my class. I am sure you have heard the story if you read my first post. But being the fat and unpopular girl in my class of 33 people was an issue. There were only maybe 5 fat girls in my high school. We were marginalized. Some of us had learning disabilities and others just didn’t do sports like me. So, it was assumed that because I was fat I was also stupid. You have heard the sound of people’s voices when they make fun of you. They make you sound dumb.
I fiercely refused to be that person.
I grew up in a family that watched History Channel, Discovery Channel and PBS every night. We visited museums on vacations and my brother and I NEVER complained. My mother tried to get me into a high math class because of my test scores but even the adults refused to move me up because I wasn’t the type.
I refuse to take it.
I took advance courses as quickly as I could. I had an online Spanish class and took advanced English. I read classics by choice like Siddhartha, Jane Austen, and Charles Dickens. I could explain Shakespeare to my fellow classmates and even outwitted a history teacher talking about the New York City draft riots portrayed in a history of the Gangs of New York documentary I had seen the day before. I graduated with honors being ranked 3rd in my class. I was the only person in that class to get early admissions into a major university.
I wanted to prove that you can be a plus size woman and smart.
You CAN be both
I guess what I am trying to say is don’t listen to what people say. You can like Dr. Who and Torchwood. You can create games and like football. You can be a brony and be in the Marines. I know that you can have both. The thing you should know though is that having both also means that you may have to work twice as hard. That is because people won’t understand your choices. They will try to tell you how to be normal but all you have to be is yourself.